Thursday, November 10, 2011

Indian Baby Girl Names - T 4

Indian Baby Girl Names - T - Page 4

Posted: 07 Nov 2011 09:35 AM PST

NameMeaning
Trijagati
Goddess Parvati
Trikaya
Three Dimensional
Trilochana
Lord Shiva
Trinayani
Goddess Durga
Trinetra
Goddess Durga
Triparna
Leaf Of Sacred Bael
Tripta
Satisfied
Tripti
Satisfaction
Tripura
Goddess Durga
Tripurasundari
Goddess Parvati
Tripuri
Goddess Paravati
Triputa
Goddess Durga
Trisha
Thirst
Trishala
Mother Of Lord Mahavir
Trishna
Thirst
Trishona
Desire
Trishulini
Goddess Durga
Triti
A Moment In Time
Triveni
Confluence Of Three Sacred Rivers
Triya
Young Woman
Triyama
Night
Trupti
Stiltedness
Trusha
Thirst
Trushita
-
Tuhi
Bird Sound
Tuhina
Snow
Tulasi
A Sacred Plant (basil)
Tulika
Brush
Tulsi
Sacred Plant
Tulya
Equalled
Turanya
Swift
Turvi
Superior
Turya
Spiritual Power
Tusharkana
A Particle Of Snow
Tushita
-
Tusti
Peace, Happiness
Tvarika
Swift, Quick
Tvarita
Goddess Durga
Tvesa
Brilliant, Glittering
Tvesha
-
Tvisha
Bright
Twinkle
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Indian Baby Girl Names - T

NameMeaning
Teekshika
-
Teertha
Place Of Pilgrimage
Tehzeeb
Elegance
Teja
Radiant
Tejal
Lustrous
Tejashree
With Devine Power And Grace
Tejasvi
Energetic; Gifted; Brilliant
Tejaswi
Lustrous
Tejaswini
Lustrous
Teji
-
Tejshri
Of Divine Powers
Thamarai
Lotus Flower, Pure And Lovely
Thamilselvi
Pride Of The Tamilians
Thanaa
thankfulness
Thaneesha
Ambition
Tharaa
wealth
Thenmoli
Speaks Sweet Like Honey
Thenral
Cool Breeze; encouraging
Thridha
-
Thulasi
Holy Plant With Sweet Fragrance
Thumri
Light Classical Melody
Thuraya
star
Tibna
-
Tilaka
A Kind Of Necklace
Tilika
Auspicious Symbol
Tilottama
A Celestial Maiden
Timila
A Musical
Tina
-
Tista
Tributary Of Ganga River Located In North India
Tisya
Auspicious
Tithi
Date
Titiksha
Forgiveness
Tiya
A Bird
Toral
A Folk Heroine
Toshal
Association
Toshani
Goddess Durga
Toya
Water
Trariti
Durga; Agile; Efficient; Swift
Trayi
Intellect
Treya
Walking In Three Paths
Triambika
Goddess Parvati
Tridhara
The River Ganga
Tridiva
Heaven
Triguna
Maya Or Illusion
Triguni
The Three Dimensions

Indian Baby Girl Names - T - Page 2

Posted: 04 Nov 2011 09:57 AM PDT

NameMeaning
Tanusiya
A Great Devotee
Tanvi
Slender, Beautiful, Delicate
Tanvita
-
Tanya
Of The Family
Tanzil
Beautification Of Paradise
Tapani
The River Godavari
Tapasi
A Female Ascetic
Tapati
The Sun's Daughter
Tapi
Name Of A River
Tapni
Godavari River In India
Tapti
A River
Tara
Star
Tarai
Star
Taraka
Star
Tarakeshwari
Goddess Parvati
Tarakini
Starry Night
Tarala
Honeybee
Tarana
A Musical Composition
Tarangini
A River
Tarani
Boat
Taranija
River Yamuna
Tarannum
Melody
Tarika
Starlet
Tarini
Goddess Parvati
Tarita
Goddess Durga
Tarjani
The First Finger
Tarkeshwari
Parvati
Tarla
Nectar
Tarli
Star
Tarlika
-
Taroob
merry
Tarpana
Same as Gayatri
Taru
Tree
Tarulata
A Creeper
Taruna
Young Girl
Taruni
Young Girl
Tarunika
Young Girl
Tarunima
Youth
Tarz
Rythem
Tasha
Birth
Tasveer
A Beautiful Portrait
Tatini
River
Tavishi
Courage
Taza
-
Tazz
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Indian Baby Girl Names - T - Page 1

Posted: 04 Nov 2011 09:37 AM PDT

NameMeaning
Taahira
pure; Chaste
Taaj
-
Taanu
-
Taanusiya
-
Tabassum
A Flower
Tabasumm
sweet Smile
Tabish
-
Talika
A Bird
Talikha
Nightingale
Talli
Young
Tamadhur
proper Name
Tamali
A Tree With Very Dark Bark
Tamalika
Belonging To A Place Full Of Tamal
Tamanna
Desire
Tamasa
A River; Darkness
Tamasi
Night
Tamasvi
-
Tamasvini
Night
Tambura
A Musical Instrument
Tamira
Magic
Tammana
-
Tanaya
Son
Tanaz
delicate Body
Taneesha
-
Tania
-
Tanika
Rope
Tanima
Slenderness
Tanirika
A Flower
Tanisha
Ambition
Tanisi
Goddess Durga
Tanmaya
Absorbed
Tanmayee
Ecstasy In Sanskrit & Telugu
Tanmayi
Ecstasy In Sanskrit & Telugu
Tannishtha
Dedicated
Tannistha
Devoted
Tannushri
-
Tanseem
Salute Of Paradise
Tanu
Body
Tanuja
A Daughter
Tanuka
Slender
Tanulata
Slim Creeper Like Body
Tanupa
Hunger
Tanushi
-
Tanushree
-
Tanushri
Beautiful

Friday, August 26, 2011

Steve Jobs' 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

Steve Job at Stanford

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Friday, August 19, 2011

Lessons from life & career of Narayana Murthy

NR Narayana Murthy , who steps down as Infosys chairman on August 20, is a role model for not just what he achieved but also how he did it. Here are 30 lessons from Murthy, one for each year he spent at company.

Seize Your Gandhi Moment
Murthy, a self proclaimed socialist in the mid '70s was jailed for 72 hours in Bulgaria. The experience taught him that entrepreneurship and job creation is the way to alleviate poverty.

You might fail, but get started
Learn from mistakes and move on. In 1976, Murthy founded Softronics, a company that lasted a year and a half. When he realised that his first venture wasn't taking off, he moved on.

Think Big. Don't Hesitate to Start Small
In 1981, a determined Murthy started Infosys with Rs 10,000 he borrowed from his wife. In few years, Infosys went on to become one of the largest wealth creators in the country.

Cut Yourself a Slice, Not a Large One Always
When Infosys was set up, Murthy took a pay cut while salaries of other co-founder's were increased by 10 percent. According to Murthy, a leader needs to show his or her sacrifice and commitment.

Lend a Hand and Throw in a Foot Too
After Murthy convinced seven of his colleagues, there was a problem. Nandan's future inlaws were not sure about him. Murthy met Nandan's uncle and convinced him.

Own Up, and Then Clean Up
In the '80s Infosys developed an application for a German client. Murthy noticed a single character error and informed the client immediately.

Trust in God, But Verify with Data
In God we trust, the rest must come with data, is perhaps Murthy's favourite statement. When confronted with difficult decisions, he tends to rely on data.

Keep the Faith
Infosys almost wound up in 1990. Murthy did not want to sell the company. He asked co-founders if they wanted out and offered to buy their shares. All of them stuck together.

Get Involved
Infosys won a contract from Reebok in the early '90s. Seeing the founders involvement, the software, was nick named 'Dinesh, Murthy and Prahlad.' Infy veterans still recall those days.

Sharing is Caring
After the IPO, Infosys decided to share a portion of its equity with employees. This helped them retain talent and gave employees a sense of ownership. Murthy is proud of having given away stocks worth over Rs 50,000 crore to employees.

Treat your People Good, but Your Best Better
Murthy always had a thing for good performers. And he rewarded them well. When Infosys decided to give its employees stock options, Murthy insisted that some shares be given to good performers through the 'Chairman's quota.'

Hire a Good Accountant, Even if he is Argumentative
A young, argumentative Indian, was asking too many questions at an annual general body meeting of Infosys. More impressed than irritated, he hired Mohandas Pai, who went on to help Infosys list on Nasdaq.

When in Doubt, Disclose
Keep your books clean and leave the cooking to the chef. Murthy's philosophy about being open and transparent has given the company a lot of credibility. He often says, "When in doubt, please disclose."

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

movies

http://www.watchenglishmovie.com/

http://www.300mkv.org/

http://www.letmewatchthis.ch/

http://googletubes.blogspot.com/
http://4alike.com/category/movie-world

http://myeduniya.net/Entertainment/
http://gujnatak.blogspot.com/

http://www.filmsite.org/controversialfilms.html

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

unchi nichi hai dagaria

Anaida - Kaachi Kali

suchitra - dole dole

Anaida - Hoo Halla Ho

OLD INDIAN ADs

Paree Hoon Main

KK - Aap Ki Dua

HAI DHUAN HAI DHUAN- VIKAS BHALLA.mp4

remo fernandez- o meri munni

Ho gayi hai mohabbat tumse.mp4 by Anand Sadasivan

woh kaun thi - jojo

Nazar Nazar -mandar agashe

Door Darshan music

Paan Pasand Shaadi

Friday, March 11, 2011

Things to remember

1. Life is short. If you are stressed, worry, eat unhealthy, or focus on the negative “stuff” - your life will end up being even shorter.

2. Your troubles of today are only temporary. Look for the silver lining. If you look hard enough, you will find the silver lining and it will make all the difference in how you perceive your situation and how you feel.

3. When things are good in your life, they will seldom become great. We rarely make changes when things are good. Only when we hit rock-bottom are we forced to make changes — and that will lead you to greatness. So, if you have hit rock-bottom, hold onto your socks and start celebrating because…your greatest life is just around the corner!

4. Stop staring at the closed door (the negative stuff). Search for all the open doors (opportunities) all around you. There are many.

5. You are perfect. Regardless of what you have been told, what people think, or how people treat you - you are perfect exactly the way you are.

6. The only opinion that counts is your own opinion of yourself.

7. You already have all the answers - they are just lost in the mental fog. Clear your mind of all clutter and negative chatter. Meditate, exercise, journal, and take time to yourself to reflect.

8. Don’t follow the crowd. It will only take you places where others want to go.

9. Today is tomorrow, so stop procrastinating. Get out there and start living your greatest life.

10. Be different, be bold, be loving, and always follow your heart.

11. Be conscious of what you are feeding your mind.

12. When the going gets tough - give! No matter how bad things are, there is always someone, somewhere, in a worse situation. Give your time, money, or even just a compliment.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Cain Abel

3) Start cain and able.

4) Now click on the sniffer tab. Now notice the two symbols – the one that looks the same as the one on the sniffer tab and the one that looks like a nuclear sign.

5) Mouse over them and they will tell you that one starts the sniffer and the other starts arp poisoning.

6) Now click on configure -> click on the arp tab and make sure that you are using your real ip and mac address, if you don’t you wont get any hosts or be able to arp poision.

7) Now start the sniffer and press the blue plus sign. This will let you scan for hosts in your subnet. 8) Now go back to configure and select use a spoofed ip and mac address. Now type an ip from your sub net but the last bit must be numbers that are unused so the network doesn’t get confused.

8) Select all the hosts you find and right click and go resolve host name. Now try to find the router, it will usually stand out easily. The router probably wont have a name as well as being a different brand from everything else and have a really low or really high ip address so you should spot it easily.

9) Now click on the arp tab at the bottom of the sniffer window. Click on the top table part and click the blue plus sign again. This brings up a window that allows you to select the ip addresses that you want to arp poison the first one you select should be the router and in the second box select any computers you want to listen to.

10) Click ok. Click the start arp button. You are now listening between the router and as many computers as you selected.

11) Watch as the routed packets role in. Select the password tab at the bottom of the screen and watch the passwords appear.

12) Any password hashes can be sent to the cracker and broken form there but that isn’t going to be covered in this.

Monday, February 21, 2011

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Thursday, January 20, 2011

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking............

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking............
Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.
Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do.
Let’s take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges — get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).
Problem: If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.
Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.
Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.
Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.
Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.
Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.
Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?
Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.
Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?
Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.
Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.
Problem: I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.
Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.
Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.
Problem: If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.
Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

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